A few weeks ago my wife and I started reading a book together, "The Five Love Languages" by Dr. Gary Chapman. Due to my work schedule towards the end of the month, it took us a little longer to read than we thought it would, but it was worth it.

For those of you who aren't familiar with the book, the basic premise is that the methods in which we communicate love can be broken down into 5 different groups or "languages": Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch.

The author explains each different language in their own chapter citing examples of couples that he has counseled over the years. There were several examples that really hit home with us. Then at the end of the book you are given a profile test to help you determine what your primary and secondary love languages are.

Before taking the test, I knew that my wife and I were going to have different primary languages and I was pretty sure that we would have different secondary languages as well. I was right. For one of us, our top 2 were Physical Touch and Words of Affirmation and for the other one the top 2 were Quality Time and Acts of Service.

My wife's primary and secondary languages ended up scoring 10 out of 12 each, while the other three languages combined only totalled 10. Me on the other hand, had four languages that went from 9 to 8 to 7 to 6, with the fifth language getting a 0.

I can't recommend this book enough to married couples who are going through a rough spot in their marriage. And even if you're not going through a rough spot, I would still recommend this book. I wish we would have read this book years ago. It definitely would have saved us a lot of communication issues.