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Yes another quesion from me! I'm full of them.....

Asked by: *The*Learner*Of*Lessons* on January 23, 2008 at 12:57PM EST

Before I directly ask a question let me explain my situation that I find myself in....Well a friend adressed me that my relationship with my boyfriend is not biblical and that I have to break up with him. This all started when she asked if he was a christian and I hesitated before revealing the truth which is "I'm not sure" He does go to church everyonce in a while which is about as much as I do...Anyway I know I am saved and I want him to be but my friend is almost certian that I shouldn't date him when the fact is she doesn't know him..she has never even talked to him. And she is a firm believer in a christian and non- Christian not being together at all but if you look at it from a certain perspactive it is a good witnessing opportunity....And his morals,values, and ideas about life match closely to mine so he comprehends the basic idea of christianity so he has no problem with going to church...Honestly all he is lacking is the relationship with God. I can be an example to him. How would it look if I said"Hey your not a christian I can't be with you" When at the same time I make mistakes to and I have areas to improve upon myself...I can't just tell him I love him and actualy love him and then just turn around shut him out...As you can tell I am confused a bit and upset at my friends blunt demand...and in the midst of it all I am questioning myself. Which now I'm noticing how I need to start spending time daily with God rather than quick lil prayers. My heart is heavy with the great loads I continue to put on it...and I need to pray and I would be very thankfull for prayers!!!!!!!! So my overall question is " Could some one please give me some advice on what to do?" any little statement would hopefully help bring some clarity in my life!!!!!!!Another factor to this is now I'm thinking to myself "If I was a devoted christian would I have gotten into this relationship in the first place" "Nothing is impossible with God" "People change" "He isn't a bad person" "I did the rite thing when I stood up for my belief in no sex befor marriage and he said he will wait for me and he respected all the reasons we shouldn't and agreed that was the best route"

*Thanks in advance*

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Answered by: Court on January 23, 2008 1:00PM EST

Ooops I mispelled question!

Answered by: Josh DeJong on January 27, 2008 1:27AM EST

Here is my advice to you. Pray to God about this and He will give you His answer on His timing. Read your Bible to get insight from God on what you should do on this subject. God can help you with this and I know He can. Rely on God since He is there for you with whatever you go through life including having a boyfriend who isn't a Christian. God will guide you and show you the right thing to do in this situation. Just ask Him and He will answer you when you are ready to hear Him. That is all the advice I got for you. I hope it helped :)

Answered by: J Lee Harshbarger on January 28, 2008 12:25AM EST

I second Josh's advice. All the points you bring up are good, but they conflict with each other. Which is to say, there is no easy answer. Only God knows both you and him intimately and knows what would happen to you and him if you continue or don't. If you have a reliable Christian friend who DOES know both of you well, insight from that person would be a plus.

One comment that did hit me a little uneasy was, "All he is lacking is the relationship with God." Yet this is the very essence of Christianity. You may also consider, people who are moral are often the ones who are the hardest to convert because they think they don't need God--they're a good person already. Morality does not provide the same sort of relational intimacy with your lover that knowing God does.

Answered by: Court on January 28, 2008 12:19PM EST

Thanks Guys =)

Answered by: Chelsea on February 17, 2008 2:46PM EST

The Bible does say that we shouldn't be yoked w/unbelievers. This is very dangerous: i know we say "oh, he'll change" but 90% of the time he doesn't. i know this is difficult but i know someone who married a non-christian thinking he'd change and he said he would but he lied and i don't want anyone else to go thru what she is. Just be friends til he gets saved, and if God doesn't want you to be w/Him, please obey God. You want healing and guidance. This is how to get it: Elijah waited for God in the earthquakes, fires, and winds, but God was there in the silence. You want to hear from God. Get alone, turn off your cell, tv, etc. and tell God you want to do His will, not yours, you want a passion for Him, a burning desire to know Him and courage to do His will. Then you wait as long as it takes, ten minutes, longer, and He'll speak to you. Not neccessarily audibly, but He will speak to you. Perhaps give you a verse, a vision, lyric of song, or impress something on your spirit. Make sure it lines up w/the Word, if not it can be your imagination or Satan trying to mess you up. Seek Him w/all your heart so you can find him. Jer. 29:13. Let me know if this has helped. Thank you.